Since many put intelligence quotients in high regard, it often leads to emotional quotients being glossed over without consideration. However, emotional quotients are as (if not more) important than intelligence quotients. This is mainly due to the fact that they register how a person deals with their problems appropriately. With this being said, we're going to cover a few excellent ways to boost your child's emotional quotient.

  • Understand Where Your Child Is Coming From - Empathize with your child (given the situation) and identify with the problem that is bothering them. Even if you're left in a position whereas you "can't do anything", it's still possible to be on their side and understand. Since we all store up emotions, having a child lose their temper is commonplace and nothing out of the ordinary. Understanding where your child is coming from helps boost their emotional intelligence.

  • - Makes the child feel understood and they're not alone.
    - It allows the child to reflect on his/her feelings.
    - Helps the child develop empathy from others.

  • Allow Them To Express Themselves - Accept how your child feels and show concern regarding their emotions. This is very important because denying how they feel can lead to feelings of shame. If you disapprove of their anger or fear, explain to them the full range of their feelings... but some actions should be limited (i.e. hitting, screaming, etc.) Allowing your child to express their emotions boosts their emotional intelligence as it:

    - It shows them that their emotions are manageable.
    - It teaches your child how to accept their emotions.

  • Teach Them Problem Solving Techniques - Explain to them that their emotions are messages and not something to wallow in. Teach them how to tolerate their emotions without acting on them. Once they're out of the grips of their own emotion, they can act and problem solve if necessary. When children believe that their feelings and emotions are accepted, they can reach clarity and can come to a decision. However, it should be noted that there are situations where they'll need to brainstorm with someone else to reach an assessment. Regardless, teaching them how to solve emotional problems on their own helps them boost their emotional intelligence by:
    - They'll need to express their emotions without attacking another person.

    - Teaching children to honor their feelings allows them to feel empowered by their decisions.
    - Children need to find constructive outlets for their emotions.